ANGER FOR GOOD

 Personal development

Well mind 

Anger is the catalyst for change

“Usually when people are sad, they don't do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.”   ― Malcolm X

Anger is an essential communication that our bodies transmit to us but that we are unable to interpret because the thinking brain is temporarily disabled, and occasionally causes us to say and do things that we may later regret.

Written by Charlene Mind'je F.

Place of publication: Kigali-Rwanda

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It's okay to be angry sometimes!...

Anger is a normal emotion in life. We have every right to feel it. But we also have a duty - especially to ourselves to control it. Anger is socially undesirable and people believe it is an emotion that should not exist. Yet it is a useful emotion because it leads us to change. Do not be afraid of anger but consider it as a motor of indignation.

What is Anger? 

Anger is an emotional response that arises when certain circumstances do not turn out as we envisioned. It is the feeling we have when our desires are not fulfilled. This emotion can appear in particular when we feel an injustice, a feeling of powerlessness, or even when we lose control of a situation. 

However, the emotion of anger is different from the expression of anger. The problem is never the emotion of anger per se, but the way in which anger is manifested. From annoyance to fury, anger takes us through all the colors of the rainbow, consumes a lot of energy, and does not always help solve our problems. However, like all emotions, anger aims for a benefit and sends us messages that are essential to our well-being and our balance. 

Would it ultimately be a good adviser?

Anger is not just a useless annoyance. It can be beneficial in more than one way: firstly because it allows us to modify our interactions to avoid reproducing the relational situations that trigger them, but also because in a broader sense, it provides us with fuel damn powerful to change what we consider unjust, illegitimate, painful, etc. It is the driving force behind many commitments, such as the fight for causes that are important to us, political, human, etc.

According to Kalmer (2019), the following are 4 ways how you can transform your aggressive anger into a productive habit: 

• Not Complaining, but Investigating – Instead of venting our anger, we should use the situation to learn more about ourselves. Ask yourself: why am I angry? What do I feel is not fair about this situation? What is making me feel threatened? 

• Not Suppressing, but Expressing – Other than that, we need to be able to explain our anger to ourselves, instead of suppressing all our annoyances. So that we understand the situation with clarity – no-nonsense, and neither exaggerated nor understated.

• Not Exploding, but Taking Action – Then, we need to consider – that person who was unfair to us, do they need to know all the details of why we felt angry toward them? Take into account who they are! Depending on our relationship with the person who hurt us, that individual is not always ready to receive criticism or work on their weaknesses. So, think about it creatively! 

• Not Blaming, but Uniting – If we regard everyone that hurts us as villains in our lives, we forget that they too have the power and responsibility to be better. Conversely, don’t forget that every one of us has problems and weaknesses – and we too, have the power to change. So, instead of constantly blaming each other, let’s inspire each other to always become better people!

For further benefits of anger, use the following link: https://www.spring.org.uk/2012/03/the-upside-of-anger-6-psychological-benefits-of-getting-mad.php

What is the bad face of Anger? 

Depending on the origin of its anger, the latter can generate different reactions:  aggression, worry, sadness, rage, impatience, etc. The more one suffers, the more these different emotions accumulate and are likely to be accentuated.

In the long term, it can also make you feel overwhelmed, and stress and depression appear. This is why learning to manage your anger can be beneficial. Because, when this emotion invades us, we are more likely to make bad choices.

Know that anger is a normal aspect of learning. Therefore, in order to move forward, it is vital to accept this experience and not view it as an unpleasant emotion but rather as a sign that we are evolving, advancing, and changing.

Spec-Tacular Mind opinion

As noticed above, anger is a real engine of progress. If we manage to use it in a positive way, in particular by letting it express itself, we can transform it into the hope of doing better. It simply indicates that we are not doing the right thing but that a solution within our reach exists. The more we deal with this frustration, listen to it, and act differently, the more opportunity we have to achieve our goals and succeed. And all of this can be controlled from within you, by protecting your Inner Peace!

Find my other article on how to protect your peace : 

https://mypath2passion.blogspot.com/2022/07/protect-your-peace.html

How to use anger as a force for good - Marcia Reynolds speaks on TEDx

SOURCES:

• DeFoore, William (1991). Anger: Heal with it &Deal with it /development of  Communications

• https://get-kalm.com/en/2019/09/16/anger-engine-for-change/trackback/ 

@@@ If this content has been useful to you, you can share with us in the comment section below, how anger has uplifted and prompted you to take action in your life.