SILENCE TO LISTEN

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Personal Development

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Silence is the most critical aspect of effective communication

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If you want to achieve your goals in life, learn to communicate effectively. It will help you develop your true identity and reach your full potential

Written by CHARLENE MIND'JE F.


Listening  to communicate effectively

Most people believe that to communicate effectively, you must be able to speak well, but this isn't always the case. Being able to listen and comprehend what the other person is saying is the most important communication skill. You must know how to listen and listen well to have effective communication. 

You may need to be silent at times in order for the other person to speak. From a neuroscience point of view, it is not possible to really listen to someone if we are constantly talking. If you want to be a better communicator, the most important thing you can do is learn to control your speech.

The art of communication entails placing yourself in your interlocutor's shoes, comprehending his world while ignoring your own. Empathy is frequently misunderstood as a special ability, yet it is a skill that everyone acquires as a child. It's natural to feel empathy since we unconsciously emulate what our parents do or say 

We were building a brain pathway that would eventually allow us to choose whether or not to use it. We're simply teaching our minds to empathize with others. When it comes to communication, neuroscience has demonstrated that this type of teaching is crucial.

By knowing how to listen to others, therefore by learning to shut up, you can come to see the world as others see it. It enriches your understanding and expands your capacity for empathy. This way, you come to a deeper level of understanding of the situation they find themselves in, which will help you find the right words later.

Find in the following clip video 5 ways to listen better by Julian Treasure /



How to optimize listening in communication?

  • Don't interrupt him when he is speaking, and don't ask him any questions. Ask her questions, if only during the gaps and when she's not speaking
  • Don't try to change the subject
  • Don't try to be helpful when the speaker is talking 
  • Maintain the eye contact with the speaker
  • Don't turn out "a dull topic" i.e conclude in your mind that the subject is not interesting. Instead, find out areas for interest, and listen for new ideas.
  • Avoid being distracted by materials around you _such as telephone calls, falling of a pen, or even the movements of other participants in the place
  • Do not take on the position of judge, as this is not a trial, but rather a presentation of ideas. If you wish to be critical, make sure your remarks are focused on the speaker's topic rather than his or her conduct.
  • Control your emotional level. Don't let yourself go through in what is being said, rather grow through it.
  • Ask for clarification in terms of need.
  • After the speaker's speech, be willing to paraphrase and repeat to yourself what you have gotten from the speech. This will help you to exercise your mind and to evaluate your listening skill
For further information, find out 6 Benefits of active listening in the link below:

https://www.inpd.co.uk/blog/benefits-of-active-listening



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